For many, an advantage is the increased quality, quantity and frequency of sex.
I’m at Annenberg, talking about morality, when I hear, “What is that, philosophy?
Sounds stupid.” As the stranger sitting across from me begins to tell me that you live and you die and life is just about living the most before then, I ask him what living the most entails if he’s never thought about these important questions. While few people take casual sex to this extreme, the hook-up culture at college is no rarity; 72 percent of us will hook up before we graduate. Combine free condoms, distance from home, minimal responsibility, plentiful alcohol, and parties every weekend with the fact that sex just feels good and you have an equation for casual sex. The hook-up culture may seem like an elegant solution to the college life style—reap all the benefits of an orgasm without the commitment of a relationship—but it distorts and perverts our capacity to value each other.
Consequently, every hook-up is an uphill battle against nature—a conscious attempt to detach ourselves from emotions like care, trust, affection, and love by doing the very act which amplifies them. On a less scientific level, the hook-up culture undermines and even prevents us from forming genuine relationships.
When people have casual sex, they are consciously acknowledging that another’s body is just a means for self-satisfaction, a basic tool for personal gratification.
Furthermore, every touch, every kiss, and every orgasm releases the neurotransmitter dopamine, which increases desire for something.
When we release it during sex, we want to have more sex.
Most importantly, their very existence in your life all but guarantees you’ll get laid.
But the definition of FB also connotes impermanence.
Here are a few ground rules for breaking up with your booty caller…
RULE #1: Ask yourself: Why am I breaking up with him? So before you break it off, take a moment to ask yourself why you’re dumping him.
Swingers who engage in casual sex maintain that sex among swingers is often more frank and deliberative and therefore more honest than infidelity.