Anyway, that all sucked, but I survived, and then in college I lost weight.
So a part of me wants to tell her in the hopes that she would be happy for me, but when I put myself in her shoes hearing this news, I think I'd be devastated.
I'm torn between my own desire for lasting relationship bliss and my desire to preserve the most important friendship in my life. —Something Has to Give Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Your friend is going to be hurt. When you made the choice to start hanging out with your best friend’s ex without telling her, that’s when you made the decision to hide your actions, and possibly your feelings, from her.
I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.
, a bi-monthly column in which sex and relationships writer Gigi Engle answers your most intimate questions. From threesomes to anal, unrequited love to cheating: we want to hear it all. You didn’t know, but this girl KNOWS what he’s capable of and wants to be in a romantic relationship. She is under the false pretense many women tend to slip into where they think they can be the one to change a person. Especially some sociopathic, abusive nutjob who she’s be a sociopathic nutjob. There doesn't need to be some huge fight or falling out, but you certainly have to distance yourself from the situation. You just have to stop answering every text, don’t make plans with her and let the friendship fade away.
Better yet, if she's in another relationship and is seriously in love, it's doubtful she'll care too much if you want to date her ex.
If this is the case, and your friend is still concerned, it's best to stay away from the ex. If you and your friend don't regularly talk face-to-face, your dating habits may not get in the way of this friendship.These are a few times when it's OK to date your best friend's ex (with her approval, obviously).If your friend is 100 percent over her past relationship, you just might get the green light from her.She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.It's a touchy subject in many friendships, but on the one hand, dating your friend's ex might turn out to be no big deal at all.