He will associate your name with the guilt he is feeling for not calling you, and the irritation he is feeling because he's trying his best and obviously failing at making you happy. When work lets up, I’d love to spend some fun one-on-one time with you again. Love, Liz.”Then give him space and wait for his call. He will not trust you if you do not back them up with actions: no more hurt feelings talks, no more nagging, no more demands.
The bigger problem is that you haven’t trained your fight or flight instinct to favor the fight.
If you had a fight instinct, you wouldn’t hesitate when it comes to getting physical with a woman you like.
I emailed/texted him multiple times a day asking what had happened and when could we talk?
He sent an angry email saying he was working 14-hour days and couldn’t deal with this right now and that all he has to offer is friendship. He gets busy at work and you fall out of sight and out of mind.
dear heather, I have a boyfriend who I really, really like.
I talk to him for hours and we have SO much in common.
You don’t know how the girl will react to you, you don’t know how people will react to you escalating on some girl you don’t know. It incites fear as you start to approach the point of no return.
And that point of no return is when you finally make a move on the girl you like.
Am I pathetic to hope he might want to be with me after things calm down? Lets break this down and play the last couple months for you in slow motion so you can see exactly what happened and how it can be done differently in the future, with different results. He loves to see you happy and he loves that he can make you happy. Women are brilliant at multitasking because we have 8 times more connector cells in our brain than a man.
If he does, should I expect an apology for the lack of communication or should I apologize to him for being needy? Which means he is brilliant at slaying the dragon right in front of him (work) and less brilliant at writing a shopping list at the same time (pursuing you.) It’s got nothing to do with how much you mean to him and has everything to do with how his brain functions!!
I once read somewhere that it takes as much fearlessness to make a move on a girl you like as it does to tame a lion. It’s more of a psychological issue than a real one.