Speaking to Chinese girls, who are notorious for never making the first move, their rationale for never making the first move is this: they want a manly man who’s assertive, confidence and takes over control.
If this guy can’t even take the initiative to make the first move, then he’s not a manly man…in fact, he’s more like a weenie man.
Don’t mistaken this for a lack of standards…I don’t say yes to everyone.
However, I am more likely to date someone who pursues me first. Should women be more proactive when it comes to dating? Mike: There are still expectations on guys to do most of the work, but right at the beginning, theres no particular reason why a girl couldn’t initiate something.
What makes passive-aggressive people difficult to deal with is the fact that they’re often so slick.
In other words, sometimes it takes a minute, an hour, or even a day or two to figure out that his behavior is, in fact, passive-aggressive.
And, boy, are passive-aggressive people good at knowing how to push a person’s buttons.
The truth is, passive-aggressive men and women usually have a low self-esteem and feel insecure and powerless much of the time. Frequent examples of passive-aggressive behavior in romantic relationships: he likes to be on time, but she’s been angry with him for a long time and intentionally takes her time getting ready to leave for something and has no problem making him late; he accepts work telephone calls in the middle of a meal, and she’s resentful and tells him with a weird look, “I know you love your job sooo much;” he flirts with other women and then plays with her head when she brings up the issue with him; and he gets upset and freezes her out completely, but all the while refuses to admit that he’s angry.
They don’t feel strong or sturdy enough to confront you in a direct and straightforward way, but they feel angry and emotional and can only express themselves in a way that is intended to cast them in a meek light, as if to say, ‘Who, me? Regardless of what causes a person to become passive-aggressive (again, low self-worth mixed with anger), this type of adolescent – no, elementary school – behavior should be absolutely unacceptable in any relationship between two adults.
How to stop this behavior as soon as you identify it…
A friend recently told me that I have a habit of dating guys with lots of deal breakers.