From my perspective, this is a more rare circumstance than the single woman with the married man. I have yet to get an email from a single man who is involved with a married woman asking me for help, pining out the problems in his affair, or just to vent. But I get emails from women all the time who are involved with married men, concerning their issues, frustrations and questions.
When a married woman gets into an illicit affair, it is either because she is bored of / unhappy in her marriage or that she has given into temptation.
The rule says that while she may be a great sexual partner and be happy & joyous with you, she won't leave her husband for you.
A married woman will put her kids and family social commitments before you.
She will attend to her kids and be by her husband's side for social gatherings even if it means leaving you in a lurch.
This is sort of Part II concerning single people having affairs with married people and why.
Recently, I wrote about why single women have affairs with married men.
I thought about how many women had been in my position, waiting for a man to leave his wife.
As the lover you get the edited highlights of a marriage: the laughter, the smiles, the sex. But what we lacked was emotional closeness — that lovely sense of wasting time together and the accompanying feeling of certainty. And I’ve made myself a promise: in my next relationship, I want Sunday nights and Monday mornings together, and all the boring minutiae of daily life that couples take for granted.
So today it’s the more rare circumstance — those few single men who have affairs with married women.
And how the single male’s motivations and approach tends to be different than the single woman who is someone’s affair partner.
For fear of being found out, she signed off her emails with the instructions ‘No reply’ or ‘You may respond’. As a travel writer, I was working abroad a great deal.